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Where's the handle? The French love to drink out of a bowl. Photo: Su-May/Flickr

My French habits that foreigners just don't get

The Local · 8 Apr 2015, 15:14

Published: 08 Apr 2015 15:14 GMT+02:00

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1. Drinking tea out of a bowl 

Photo: Chloé Farand 

There is nothing better than drinking tea or coffee – no milk, maybe sugar – from a bowl. Not only it is a bigger container making the beverage cool down quicker, but there is something great about grabbing a bowl with both hands and plunging your face into it, (although not to the point where you might drown) – to the absolute bemusement of anyone around you who isn't French.
2. Then dip a tartine into the tea or coffee in the bowl

Photo: Chloé Farand 
The tartine is an institution: a large piece of toasted baguette topped with butter and lumps of homemade apricot jam has to be my favourite. When dipped into the tea, the butter and jam melt and the bread softens – making it easier to eat without making it soggy. The residue of jam falls to the bottom of the coffee, which is why there's no need to have put sugar in the drink. Those English friends who looked on bewildered are looking at me in disgust.
3. Eating the end of the baguette before getting home  

Photo: Todd Mecklem/Flickr
The end of the baguette is called the croûton. Tearing off the crispy crust of the croûton, when the bread is still warm from the oven, as soon as you walk out of the boulangerie (bakery), is one of those little pleasures in French life. It just doesn't work with a bag of Hovis sliced brown bread. 

4. Speaking my mind

Photo: Shutterstock

No faffing. Straight to the point. Frankness is welcomed by the French as a valuable quality, whereas in the UK people don't tend to say what they think about others, or at least to their faces. In France as long as you're polite, it is acceptable to speak honestly about people, even if those thoughts are crude and rude. 

5. Sex talk is normal

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It's well known there are few taboos when it comes to sex talk in France. But more importantly, sex is an easy conversation topic between good friends without shame or blame attached. It is common for people to open up about their experiences and sentiments, in the intimacy of close friends. Tip: be prepared to hear about anything and everything. Never be shocked. 

6. Smile a lot and laugh only when necessary

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Understanding irony is key to understanding French humour. It's less about Laughing Out Loud than about finding the wittiest puns on what we call "second degree" humour, which is basically just irony/sarcasm or words that shouldn't be taken literally.

Videos of flying cats and yoga-practicing babies are less likely to make the French laugh than outrageous cartoons and politically incorrect word play. 

7. Singing slogans at a protest march

Photo: Philippe Leroyer/Flickr

Shouting, screaming and waving flags every time you disagree with something the government does is a thrill few nations truly enjoy in the same way.

The idea of demonstration is to create chaos and force the authority to yield to negotiations. Although it's not always successful, it is still a powerful way to express solidarity and maintain the belief all citizens have a part to play in the civil society. Paradoxically it is when nothing works, no buses, trains or planes that French society functions at its best. 

8. Arguing for hours at the dinner table but forgetting it all in time for dessert

Photo: Monkey Business Images/Flickr

Not only do we shout in the streets but the French also love indulging in long political arguments and existential debates when sitting at the dinner table.

While serving up a pot au feu (traditional stew), passing the salt and pouring wine, hosts and guests have a go at each about the latest political scandals and they don't hold back.

It can seem aggressive but be reassured, the etiquette keeps it sweet and makes sure it all stops when dessert is served.

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9. Order two halves rather than a pint….

Photo: Quite Peculiar 

What is wrong with drinking half a pint? It’s chic and elegant and the beer hasn’t got time to get warm before you get to the bottom of it. We French would rather go back to the bar to get a second half pint rather than just order one full one. It makes sense.

10. ...and paying for the half pint myself

Photo: Marco Raaphorst 

Rounds are not a thing we do in France really, and usually everyone buys their own drinks, which might seem a bit rude or selfish to Anglos. But it makes sense if you only want to stay for one or two drinks and not go home drunk.

In France If someone buys you a drink, it's a special treat, enjoy it! You don't have to get them one back.

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