10 things you need to consider before becoming an au pair in France

Once you land an au pair job in France, you might imagine a future of working with adorable well-behaved children and spending your ample free time having adventures around Europe. But that's not the whole story, writes au pair Courtney Anderson.

10 things you need to consider before becoming an au pair in France
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While some of that might be true and many,  perhaps even most au pairs have a great experience during their time in France, many discover the job isn't quite what they'd expected. 
If you’re considering becoming an au pair in France, here are a few things to think about before you sign on the dotted line by someone who's been through it all before.  
Get ready to become a gourmet chef 
Rather than cooking one meal for dinner, be ready to prepare a feast if you’re an au pair in France.
Imagine the baby crying, the toddler tugging on your pant leg and the teenager refusing to do their homework. Meanwhile, the food on the stove is boiling over and it turns out you have to prepare three courses, not one, while babysitting. 
If you are cooking for a family, keep in mind that in France most meals have three courses: a raw veggies appetizer, main course and dessert — which is usually a dairy product and a fruit.
More often than not au pairs sign contracts asking them to prepare dinner, not realizing the magnitude of the process. It’s not really the family’s fault either, since this is what they know to be normal. It may be good idea to ask for a recipe book so they also give you options of the foods they enjoy.
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France has a very serious education system 
More often than not, expect the kids’ grades to be your grade. Most parents who have an au pair want their children’s homework to be perfect, especially if you are an English speaker and you’re helping them with English homework.
You’ll be wishing you paid attention in school but luckily we have smartphones to give us the answers. 
Also, the French grading system is different. Almost everything is out of 20, but anywhere from 12 to 16 is a good grade. Yep, shoot for 20 and land among the teens. 
The French work late
When people think about the French work week, many imagine a 9-5 job with a two-hour lunch break and ample vacation time.
Though technically the French do have a 35-hour work week, most people work way over these hours. So, as an au pair, you will work over time too. 
Many au pairs have contracts stating the parents will come home around 7 pm and relieve them of their duties — leaving them plenty of time for that Netflix binge.
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Be sure to have a conversation with your family about the window of time they will get off work. If they have had previous au pairs, ask them what time they usually get home. 
The working conditions vary from country to country but most au pairs are only legally allowed to work up to 5 hours a day or 30 hours a week. That includes babysitting late, unless they pay you extra. 
The kiddos 
At least in Paris, most au pairs say kids are usually more like little adults since they have a lot of responsibility when it comes to homework and live in an international city. So it's good to remember that most of the time, anyone aged six and up will not appreciate being babied.  
French bureaucracy, bring the tissues 
If you won the working-in-Europe lottery and have an EU passport, good for you. The rest of us from non-EU countries have to apply for a visa to work with the family. This involves sending every document about yourself, and the ones you thought you’d never need. Bring them all to all the meetings. 
And the way the system works means it’s time to test your patience. In France the paperwork doesn’t come back right away, so it’s important not to panic and to persevere. 
Even though nearly everyone who has lived in France has experienced the hardships of the French bureaucracy, for au pairs  — many of whom won't speak French — it’s twice as hard. 
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Learning French 
If you are not from an EU country, you’ll probably have to sign up for French courses since most non-EU countries mandate you take them to receive a visa.
Most families pay for the French classes, which surprises some au pairs who paid for theirs and find out later that they didn’t have to dip into their savings — and many of these courses are not cheap.
For nine hours of lessons a week it can be about €230 per week or you can sign up for the nearly free government provided classes. The catch is to sign up for those courses you need to navigate the website and paperwork which are all in French.
Also, a lot of families want you to speak English with your kids. After all, it is a sort-of international exchange. So before selecting a family, it’s important to know your priorities. If you want to use it as a way to get experience teaching English then find a family you will be speaking English with, or if you want to improve your French, do the opposite. 
Either way, know some French before arriving
Let's be honest, the kids will probably talk in French while you're in the room. So, in order to keep control of the situation, it’s a good idea to know your basic French before arriving.
And, it helps with everything else too. 
Most people speak a little English but you are living in France so it’s polite to try and speak in French. It will also help you feel more confident in dealing with crisis situations, like if the kids get hurt or there is an accident. You will feel less isolated knowing some French too since you’re able to express yourself a little more than “I’m fine, thank you.” 
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Bring your savings
As an au pair, dining out includes eating beforehand and ordering the cheapest thing on the menu.
Most au pairs are considered a Foreign Family Helper by the French administration, which just means you are also in France to go to school.
The average minimum wage for a Foreign Family Helper, according to the government website, is between €270 and €321 a month in France. Of course, you won’t have to pay for housing (hopefully) and usually families pay for your transportation pass and French classes.
If you want to travel it’s best to come with savings. 
Finding extra work
So many people read the average au pair wage and think, “oh I’ll just get a side job on top of being an au pair,” but finding extra work can be very difficult because there’s lots of competition and … paperwork.
Some countries really don’t care if you have papers to work, but yeah, in France they really care. So much so, that even if you have an au-pair visa some places still won’t hire you because they have to go through the prefecture to get you started. 
Also, having another job can be exhausting if you are already taking French classes and working 30 hours a week.
That being said, there are a few babysitting and nannying agencies that hire English speakers for part-time jobs. 
Being an au pair means something different in France (it’s not easy) 
If you find yourself saying “I thought this was a chill babysitting job,” after the first day of work, you’re not alone. A lot of au pairs come to France thinking they just scored room-and-board and some pocket money for a few hours of babysitting a day.
However, most French families have a different perspective, take au pairing very seriously and expect you to do the same.
Usually the families are looking for English speakers to teach their kids the language, a cook and a babysitter (maybe even a child therapist). So if you want to be an au pair in France, be prepared to wear all your hats at once.

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by Courtney Anderson

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How to get a summer job in France

As the summer holidays approach in France, many employers are looking for seasonal workers - so if you're looking for a summer job, here's how to go about it.

How to get a summer job in France

There are thousands of employment offers in France – a simple internet search for jobs d’été came up with numerous jobs boards offering work in France, while the government-backed Centre d’Information et de Documentation pour la Jeunesse (CIDJ) offers advice and information on all aspects of life for young people in France, including finding seasonal work and summer placements.

Sectors including agriculture, hospitality and tourism are always recruiting in the summer, seeking fruit-pickers, holiday camp workers and serving/hotel staff.

But what are the rules for people seeking summer jobs?

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Children from the age of 16 (under certain circumstances, the age limit drops to 14) who are legally resident in France can work as long as they have written authorisation from their parents or legal guardians. A model authorisation letter is available here

Those under the age of 18 cannot undertake certain jobs for health and safety reasons.

In the following circumstances, children as young as 14 or 15 can work during school holidays.

  • The holidays must last at least 14 days;
  • The child must work no more than half the days of the holiday – so, if a vacation period is two weeks, they can work for no more than one of those weeks;
  • The child is given ‘light duties’ that offer no risk to their safety, health, or development;
  • From the age of 15 and if the child has completed their troisieme education, a minor can register for an apprenticeship. 


Salary is usually paid monthly and will have a payslip. For those aged 18 and over, pay will be at least equal to the minimum wage.

 For those aged 14 to 17, who have less than six months’ professional experience, the minimum allowed rate is 80 percent of the minimum wage. For those aged 17 to 18, the rate rises to a minimum of 90 percent of France’s minimum wage.

  • The minimum wage in France is currently €10.85 gross per hour (€1,645.58 gross per month based on a 35-hour week);
  • the employment contract is fixed-term and can take different forms (fixed-term contract, seasonal employment contract, temporary employment contract, etc);
  • Seasonal employees are subject to the same obligations as the other employees of the company and have access to the same benefits (canteens, breaks, etc.).

Under 18s have certain additional protections:

  • between the ages of 14 and 16, during school holidays, employees on any contract cannot work more than 35 hours per week nor more than 7 hours per day;
  • They cannot work at night;
  • Those aged 14 to under 16 working during their school holidays can only be assigned to work which is not likely to harm their safety, their health or development.

Right to work in France

If you’re a French citizen or hold permanent residency in France then you have the right to work, but for foreigners there are extra restrictions.

Anyone who holds the passport of a EU/EEA country or Switzerland, is free to work in France or to travel to France seeking work without needing a visa or work permit.

Most other people will need permission to work in France – even if it’s only for a short period or for casual work such as grape-picking. Depending on your country of origin you may need a visa – everything you need to know about that is here.

In addition to the visa, you may also need a work permit, which is the responsibility of the employer.  To employ anyone in France for less than 90 days, an employer must get a temporary work permit – before the prospective employee applies for a short stay visa. This permit is then sent to the embassy at which the employee is applying for a visa.

If you come from countries including the UK, USA and Canada you can spend up to 90 days in France without a visa – but you may still need a work (convention d’accueil) if you want to work while you are here.

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Certain countries have specific ‘seasonal worker’ visas on offer, for certain sectors which allows – for example – Canadians to come to France and work the ski season. 

Cash-in-hand jobs

Certain sectors which have a lot of casual workers – for example seasonal fruit-picking – do have cash-in-hand jobs, known in France as marché noir (black market) or simply travail au black (working on the black, or working illegally). 

This is of course illegal and working this way carries risks – as well as the possibility of losing your job if labour inspectors turn up you are also in a vulnerable position. If your employer suddenly decides not to pay you, or make unexpected deductions from your wages, there is very little you can do about it since you won’t have any kind of work contract.