Ten mistakes to avoid when dating a Frenchman

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Ten mistakes to avoid when dating a Frenchman
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Are you dating a Frenchman (or trying to)? Here's the lowdown on where you might be going wrong.


Dating a French guy can be tricky at best, and according to the woman behind the blog "How to date a Frenchman", here is where you're (probably) going wrong. 
1. You go nuts
The second you and your Frenchman have sex, you go a little crazy. You start asking him out and organizing weekends away. This is a turn off to Frenchmen who like to call the shots. 
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2. You're needy
"I’m free Monday through Sunday” does not come off as sexy. “I have other plans” does. Frenchmen prefer a challenge, not someone who lays it all out on a platter.
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3. You need more notice
Frenchmen don’t organize dates ahead of time. They just text you last minute because they’re around the corner. If you want to date a Frenchman, you need to roll with it. 
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4. Your texts are boring
Frenchmen like texts to be fun and flirty. Not flat and factual. If you don't want your Frenchman to disappear on you, keep up the flirtation. 
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5. You get too comfortable
Wearing sweat pants and an old T-shirt is not a good look. Even if you and your Frenchman have been together a year, it's no excuse. Remember, Frenchmen have great taste in fashion. 

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6. You want to make plans
Mapping out your relationship with your Frenchman will get you nowhere. Because Frenchmen love to go with the flow. Want to discuss where you guys are heading? I wouldn't if I were you. 
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7. You don't like his friends
A Frenchman's circle of friends is super important to him. So getting on well with everyone is crucial, including his exes. Because yes, Frenchmen stay friends with their ex-crushes. 
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8. You get jealous
Every time your Frenchman flirts with other women, you get mad. Thing is, flirting is natural for Frenchmen. So suck it up. 
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9. You want to wait on sex
That's fine. But wait too long and your Frenchman will do a runner. Because Frenchmen have sex first then get to know you later. 
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10. You're too stressed
Frenchmen like to be in the moment so overanalyzing everything is a big no-no. Instead, just let it go and enjoy yourself. 
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Datea started her blog How to date a Frenchman in 2011 when she moved to Paris and is now engaged to a Frenchman.
Her new ebook Je t'embrasse fort reveals all there is to know about dating Frenchmen and is out September 1st exclusively on her blog here


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